As a teen I had a voice. A silent voice. It would scream inside my head. I had no problems building relationships. As long as everything was going well. I was an excellent communicator (so I thought). Until conflict approached. I tried a few times to speak up about things that bothered me. But my voice was always drowned out by someone with more confidence, by someone with a louder voice. After getting shut down a few times, I stopped speaking up. When I was hurt I became quiet. The deeper the hurt, the longer the quiet. I took time to myself until I felt I had moved on.
I did the same thing in college. And after. It wasn’t actually until my late 20’s that I realized a pattern in my relationships. I, the introvert, sought relationships with very outspoken people. And when conflict arose, I had no chance, and gave up. When I become emotional, I didn’t know how to articulate my thoughts well. My words were not being heard. The meaning was misinterpreted or manipulated and then turned against me. So I retreated before the argument ever started. I became quieter and quieter, dismissing the feelings that didn’t sit right. And eventually all those little, not such a big deal things, built into something bigger, something I couldn’t contain. And I would explode.
In my twenties, I set out on a travel journey to “find myself”. I didn’t know how to explain that to others so I stuck with that cliché. I now can articulate that desire clearly. I set out to find my voice. To explore the world by myself so that I would be forced to make all the decisions; so that I could learn MY preferences; so that my survival depended on my communication.
It has been a process of about 10 years in finding my voice and learning how to communicate in a way that is well received. This is something I wish I could have taught my teenage self. My young adult self. This is something I wish were taught in every school. This is a lifelong process and a crucial skill in creating a fulfilling life, rich with possibility.
This is my personal journey towards Supper Club. Supper Club is a dynamic dinner party workshop for teens. Supper Club is what I wish I learned as high school teen preparing to live on my own.
Imagine if teens were proactively taught how to build emotional awareness, find their voice and communicate with empathy and tact, and how to make decisions based on their personal values. And they enjoyed the process.
Imagine bringing teens together for a very intentional dinner.
A dinner party with a purpose. Because life and leadership skills are best learned together in action.
If only I knew then what I know now. Learn more about this unique opportunity for teens HERE